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Melissa Portan MSW, MEd

Writer & Sexologist

Melissa is a 5th generation spiritual guide and healer who specializes in helping others find their own spiritual path. She is also a sex and relationship therapist practicing in NYC.


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Fear of Getting a Tarot Reading

Tarot cards are a tool used for divination. The image most people get in their mind when they think of a tarot card reader is an old woman, dressed in black and purple, huge nose, pointy hat, and with a black cat. Hey, listen, there are people out there that do play up the stereotypical "witch vibe," but in most cases, the reader is a regular-looking person. Of course someone going for a tarot card reading for the first time will have some fear. Who wants to encounter a woman with dark robes and a creepy lookin' black cat? Not me. So, yes, it is normal to have a little bit of fear when going for your first tarot card reading. Society, religion, movies and television, have all created an image of what a tarot reader looks like.

Here are a few misconceptions to consider: all tarot readers are witches, all are women, all are psychic, the tarot is evil. Let’s go in reverse order; the tarot is not evil, rather it is a tool that can be used for enlightenment, self-discovery, meditation, reflection, and divination. Now, if delving into divination is considered evil by your beliefs, then you should not get a reading because you will regret it. If getting a tarot card reading goes against your belief system, you will regret it later on. Your own conscious and beliefs will make you regret; however, this does not mean that getting a reading is a regrettable action, but feeling regret just shows how much you have been conditioned to believe certain things.

Not all tarot card readers are psychics. There is some psychic ability involved in tarot reading, but full-on I-can-see-your-soul type of psychic ab