Updated: Dec 28, 2020
It is not purely in the realm of erotica or pornography for a man to have multiple orgasms. Men, like women, are capable of multiple orgasms. This may seem far-fetched, but it doesn’t have to be. Today we’re going to focus on the anatomy and physical reactions the male body may experience. It is important to note that men, women, and non-binary individuals all have the possibility (health allowing) of experiencing multiple orgasms. What is relevant to implementing and understanding the information herein, is whether you or your partner have a penis. We will, however, briefly touch upon the effects of gender roles on sexual pleasure later in this post.
The male arousal cycle.
The male orgasm is known and commonly represented as being an intense spurting of semen and other ejaculatory fluid, combined with muscle contractions and spasms, followed by a heavy tiredness. Sure, this is accurate, but it is only one of many ways a male-bodied person can experience orgasm. Typically, when we think about the male orgasm, we think in linear terms. For example, the “standard” male experience is that arousal leads to a growing, erect penis, followed by a continued heightening of sexual pleasure focused on the penis until ejaculation is reached. This is then followed by a decline in physical energy, the loss of the erection, until it returns to its flaccid state. However, this is not the only way to experience arousal, pleasure, and orgasm.
For some men and male-bodied persons, ejaculation can be delayed and the road to it can be filled with ups and downs in arousal and pleasure. So, instead of directly going for the ejaculation, explore the sensations beforehand. For others still, it is possible to have an orgasm without ejaculating.
Separation of orgasm and ejaculation.
The separation of ejaculation and orgasm may seem bizarre, weird, unattainable, or even unnatural, but it is none of these things. It is possible for men and male-bodied individuals to experience multiple orgasms once separation of ejaculation and orgasm is achieved; perhaps even before then, when the understanding and experience of orgasm is explored. It takes time, practice, and some unlearning with learning, to do, but it is possible.
Orgasm does not equate ejaculation. It is possible for a man and a male-bodied person to have an orgasm without ejaculating and this would allow for multiple orgasms that eventually lead to an explosive and deeply satisfying ejaculation. To do this, first understand that orgasm itself is simply muscular contractions, either whole body or genital focused, that cause a release of different hormones in the body, which in turn lead to the overall pleasure that may be described as an orgasm. Depending on the type and intensity of the physical stimulation, as well as where the body is being stimulated, the orgasm will originate and flow outwards. That is why orgasm and ejaculation is so closely tied because the most common, the easiest, and the most put upon method of masturbation and sex is extremely phallic-centric.
Different types of orgasm and the social pressures.
The male body is sensual and filled with erogenous zones that renders it sensitive and orgasmic. However, because of ideas of masculinity and often hidden, repressed homophobia, male sensuality is limited to the penis. Male sensuality is compacted by societal views, which in turn results in limited orgasmic experiences. For example, a man's nipples are an erogenous zone capable of causing orgasm and ejaculation, but because the nipples are seen as feminine, this pleasure zone is often neglected. (Read about The Male Nipple Orgasm for more.) Another example is anal stimulation and stimulation of the prostate as it is often not an option and even feared. Sometimes, a man does not explore this part of their body because of fears it will “compromise” his sexuality and define him as gay. Extracting pleasure from anal stimulation does not make one gay; it is who one loves and is attracted to that defines sexual orientation. Combine all of these factors with a man's own perception of masculinity and you can start to see the many ways he is keeping himself from experience the full potential of pleasure his body has to offer. So, ask yourself, how are you limiting yourself and why? Comment below and share your experiences, and questions!