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Melissa Portan MSW, MEd

Writer & Sexologist

Melissa is a 5th generation spiritual guide and healer who specializes in helping others find their own spiritual path. She is also a sex and relationship therapist practicing in NYC.


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The Female Orgasm

The female orgasm is scientifically defined as being uncontrollable spasms of the vaginal muscles resulting in a release of hormones that give great pleasure. But it is so much more than that. An orgasm, both for men and women is so much more than the organic biological explosions that happen in the body. An orgasm can be the manifestation of love for another, the release of that love, a giving of love between persons. It can be a moment where there is no time and space, only the sensations of pleasure. And it can be the beginning of a life.

For a woman, an orgasm can originate from different points on her body. Some woman can only orgasm by stimulating their clitoris. Others can orgasm with vaginal penetration and without stimulating the clitoris. There are also women that can orgasm with only having their breasts stroked and even others with only visualization. Regardless of how a woman orgasms, it happens because of a mixture of elements.

How long it takes to reach orgasm varies from woman to woman. Some can reach orgasm very easily while others need more time. The women that need more time to orgasm have been a challenge to men everywhere, a challenge that is sometimes not met. However long it may take a woman to reach her apex of pleasure, each orgasm feels different.

When the explosion of pleasure originates from the clitoris the orgasm feels superficial. This means that the orgasm expands from the clitoris over to the mons veneris and down the legs to the very toes and then up the navel, and then moves inside the vagina, touching the internal clitoris. This does not mean that this type of orgasm is any less intense or pleasurable the an orgasm reached by penetration, nor is it any less or more an orgasm. Every woman is different and how she feels her orgasm move varies. Sometimes a clitoral orgasm may only be focused on the clitoris and navel area. If she is stroking her breasts when she climaxes, or if her breasts are being touched and caressed, she might feel her nipples tingle with the pleasure of the orgasm.