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Melissa Portan MSW, MEd

Writer & Sexologist

Melissa is a 5th generation spiritual guide and healer who specializes in helping others find their own spiritual path. She is also a sex and relationship therapist practicing in NYC.


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Meditation: What is it? And How Is It Practiced?

Original Publication: Dec. 13, 2013 at

At the beginning of my spiritual path I did not want to meditate. I was extremely reluctant because I arrogantly thought I did not need to. And I had the perception that most people have of it; which is, meditation is boring and difficult. Then one day I decided to give it a try. I realized then that meditation is something I have always done, something that I did without knowing. So, what is meditation? Meditation can be used in many different manners for different reasons and be done in many different positions. You can even meditate while you have sex! (Even if it is solo or with a partner/s).

At its core, meditation is to become aware of the breath, the body, and the soul. There is emphasis on the breath both to relax and to energize. Through meditation we can become aware of the flow of life, both the physical and ethereal. Meaning that we can physically trace the movement of life with the breath and we can feel the ethereal, the non physical part of life or the divine part of life, when we feel energized or relaxed or when we suddenly realize something.

So, meditation can be used to relax, to find the answer to a question regardless of how mundane or ethereal it may be, to focus the mind, to connect with the twin soul/higher self/the gods/god/source/the self/the Universe, to remember anything (past lives), to exercise the will over reality (magick), or to simply be. There is no limit to what meditation can do because the mind itself is limitless.

Meditation is the acknowledgment of the activities of the mind followed by the relaxation of the mind. This is the case when we want to relax. We can relax by noticing what the mind is doing, what you are thinking, acknowledging it, and then letting it go. Or we relax by seeing and understanding the problem, by seeing that it re