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Melissa Portan MSW, MEd

Writer & Sexologist

Melissa is a 5th generation spiritual guide and healer who specializes in helping others find their own spiritual path. She is also a sex and relationship therapist practicing in NYC.


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Feminism, Equality, and Spirituality


Before I start writing anything I want to talk about the environment or state of the topic here in the United States. Currently in this country there are a couple of extremely hot topics: 1. immigration (with racial/stereotypical undertones) 2. LGBT rights and 3. women/rights/equality. Happily, the Supreme Court of the United States legalized gay marriage throughout the whole country. For me, when the ruling happened, I felt a load lifted off my back. Something great happened and it was a relief. However, though this great step forward was taken, there are groups, both political and social, combating this change. People are trying to use religion to revert the change that is happening. In the women’s camp, women’s rights are constantly being threatened in certain states (health care benefits like birth control). And again, religion is being used against women’s rights. To be clear, I’m not into politics. I am aware of political issues, I vote, but it is not my ideological focus. So, I cannot tell you which laws have passed in favor of women. And this post is not about politics, but it is necessary to give context. Though women have gained much in society, there is a lot lacking (equal pay, health care rights. A great example is the women’s US soccer team World Cup win.). All of this is only here in the United States. Women in other countries are not as fortunate as American women, or British women, and so on. Women in Latin America face many more challenges than American women, so there is still so much feminism can give.

I’ll be honest and tell you now that I have not studied feminism in-depth, nor have I done gender studies, and I am not fully aware of the situation of women in other parts of the world. I have never bothered studying feminism because it makes my head want to explode. The arguments me