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Melissa Portan LMSW, MEd

Writer & Sexologist

Melissa is a 5th generation spiritual guide who specializes in helping others find their own spiritual path. She is also a sex and relationship therapist practicing in NYC.

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Synchronicity and Coincidences


There is a fine line between synchronicity and coincidences. But really, what is the difference between these two terms? Well, the famous psychologist Carl Jung came up with the term in the early 1900’s. Synchronicity is how some identify separate events that are not related but do have a connected meaning. What that meaning is depends entirely on the person. And in the times before the term synchronicity was created, what were these strange coincidences called? I think they were called Providence. The term Providence, however, is not grounded in psychology but in religion. Providence is a term that was and sometimes is still used by Catholics and Christians. Providence and synchronicity are basically the same thing. Both ideas are based on the belief of some unknown force affecting our reality, usually to our benefit. Coincidences are just your every day haphazard connections that are somehow strangely related, and it is a more dismissive way of viewing the events.

So what does this all mean? We are always looking for meaning, aren’t we? There are skeptics that will say coincidences are just that, coincidences. There is no meaning between these random events and you are the one imagining the connections. But there are times when things happen and keep happening in a manner that makes you question the validity of your reality and your beliefs. And it is in those times that synchronicity starts to become evident. When does this happen? When does God move his hand behind your reality and molds it to affect you? When do the Gods interfere or make you aware of the many connections that exist? When does the Universe move to unite the chaos in a meaningful way?

For some, synchronicity starts in moments of intense difficulty. Deep depression, anger, frustration, sadness, fear, are all emotions that drag down your spirit. But often, if we try, we find that there is a glimmer of hope in our hearts. If not hope, then wishes, wishes of change or improvement. And it is that wish or hope that calls to whatever it is that can cause these synchronicities. I have my beliefs as to who or what causes synchronicities, but it is important for you to know your own beliefs when it comes to this.

For others, synchronicity starts when they begin their spiritual path. And in this case, these meaningful coincidences lead to spiritual improvement. Maybe you meet someone with the same beliefs and develop a relationship where you both exchange ideas. Maybe you find that you can suddenly travel to that place you’ve always wanted to go because something else happened and eventually you can trace this opportunity to you stepping into that yoga studio. So, synchronicity is complicated and it is almost like looking through the eyes of God or the Gods.

Lastly, synchronicity happens to those who are in love. Soul mates and twin souls and near twins all experience synchronicity, Each type of couple experiences synchronicity at varying intensities and different types of synchronicity. Why does this happen? Love is a powerful thing and it attracts love. Love can move the world.

Now, it is important to be realistic and honest. There is what we can call a dark side to synchronicity. Usually, when bad things happen people blame it on coincidence and not on synchronicity, but I disagree. Another thing one has to be careful with is overanalyzing things, over-attributing things.

In a way, synchronicity was created in an attempt to see through the eyes of God.

Namaste.

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