Once you’re with your partner and everything is going, the thought or fear of ejaculating prematurely might enter your mind. To a certain extent, the issue of premature ejaculation can be alleviated with the maxim mind of matter. It is important for your own personal enjoyment, and for your partner, that you just relax and enjoy the experience. Take note of your partner and of what she wants. Notice what he or she is doing and this will slow you down. It will calm your mind and it will ground you in the moment. Notice if she is holding on to your shoulder, or if she is pulling your hair. Notice if he is biting down on his lips. Noticing what your partner is doing is a way for your mind to focus less on you and your penis and more on your partner. Being aware of your whole body and not just your sex changes how the union feels and being aware of your partner’s entire body also has its effects. When your mind is off your own pleasure it softens the intensity of the sensations you are feeling and in this way it will help prolong the time of your erection.
I think that whether you do experience premature ejaculation or not, focusing on your partner to prolong the length of the sexual union is highly beneficial. Both women and men can apply this technique to hold back an orgasm if that is what is desired.
During sex there is another thing you can do to keep from ejaculating before you or your partner want. If you are already joined with your partner, you can slow down the speed of your thrusting. Awareness is very important for being able to prevent premature ejaculation. In knowing the signs of your body as it nears orgasm and ejaculation, you can take steps to slow down the process. By slowing down your movements you allow yourself to become aware not only of the heat in your scrotum, at the tip of the penis, but also the heat that your partner is emanating. For example, if you are with a woman and you are penetrating her and you feel that you will ejaculate soon, you can stop your movements and focus on her clitoris or her breasts, and so on. But since we are dealing with premature ejaculation, it is sudden and unexpected. If you do ejaculate before your partner and you are inside her or him, there is no reason for the sexual union to stop. You can please him or her with your mouth or with your hands. Massage can also be used during sex to keep the energy flowing until the next erection. But if that is not the case, there is nothing wrong with one partner having an orgasm before the other. It is about giving and receiving pleasure and sometimes to give pleasure we have to hold off or deny our own pleasure.
The pressure that the vagina puts on the penis during intercourse can be too much at certain points. If this is the case, then you can pull away from your partner and take a moment. Take a moment to caress her, pinch her, nibble, but take a moment and breathe. Breathe in the scent of your partner and take in the environment. Take a moment because continual thrusting brings about ejaculation and orgasm. Consider your partner and explore her. Explore him. Kiss each other. Sometimes we forget to kiss.
If your partner is a male, switching positions can definitely
There is a Hot Post on how you can use your hands to please your partner during sex and incorporate spirituality into your union. The hands are essential to bringing pleasure to your partner and to yourself and it is all good. Sex is something natural and good.
Regardless if you are a heterosexual couple or a gay couple, a simultaneous orgasm is not necessary to feel sexually fulfilled and connected to your partner. In being understanding and open with your partner you will achieve both. And in letting yourself experience sex and pleasure love will flow and grow even more.
Namaste.